Parenting Agreements

No couple thinks that their relationship will fail. But when children are involved, it is imperative to consider their needs while the parents are together and on the same page about their children’s best interests. This is why it is critical to have a legal agreement in place that plans for childcare, custody, visitation and support should the relationship dissolve.

While co-parenting agreements are useful during the Second-Parent Adoption process to protect the rights of a non-biological parent before the adoption proceeding is completed, they are an absolute necessity when a couple with children ends their relationship.  According to Gay and Lesbian Advocates and Defenders (GLAD), New England’s foremost legal authority on family issues for LGBT parents, co-parenting agreements should follow ten basic guidelines: Be honest about existing relationships regardless of legal labels; Consider the dispute from the perspective of the child or children; Try to reach a voluntary resolution; Try to maintain continuity for the child; Remember that breaking up is hard to do: Seriously investigate allegations of abuse in determining what is best for the child; Honor your agreements; The absence of legal documents is not determinative of the issues; Treat litigation as a last resort; and Treat homophobic law and sentiments as off-limits.

If you have specific questions about co-parenting agreements, please email Anthony@TimeForFamilies.com.