Surrogacy agencies operate with little regulation

By MELODY McDONALD

Star-Telegram.com, Sunday May 3, 2009

Five years ago, Stephanie Scott agreed to be a surrogate mother for an infertile couple on the East Coast.It was an awful experience.

The California surrogate agency brokering the deal mishandled the intended parents’ money, and Scott went months without compensation. When checks did come, sometimes they bounced. Medical bills went unpaid.

Scott, who lives in Dallas, said she rarely heard from the agency — or the parents whose child she was carrying.

“It was one thing after another,” she said. “I was pregnant with my surro daughter, and I couldn’t get ahold of the agency owner. I swear she was screening my calls. I called around to a couple of other agencies to see what I could do and, of course, I could do nothing.”

Scott said she was shocked to learn that neither the state nor federal government regulates surrogate agencies. They do not have to be licensed, bonded or insured, and there are no rules governing how they handle money, screen surrogates or use egg donors. The only way to check them is through Internet message boards — or by word-of-mouth.

“It is more difficult to open a restaurant with a beer and wine license than it is to open a surrogacy agency,” said Andy Vorzimer, a California reproductive law attorney who specializes in fertility issues. “It is just astonishing.”

The issue of whether surrogacy should be regulated has gained momentum in recent weeks after a class-action lawsuit was filed against a Colleyville woman, Tonya Collins, and her California-based surrogate agency, Surrogenesis.

The suit alleges that $2.5 million paid by prospective parents is missing from an escrow account. Collins, 33, and Surrogenesis, along with the Michael Charles Independent Financial Holdings Group and Jack Kiserow, are the subjects of the lawsuit, which was filed in April in California on behalf of 100 people.

The FBI and Postal Inspection Service are also investigating.

In response to the scandal and others, the American Bar Association’s family law committee met recently and is drafting model legislation to provide the legal framework to regulate surrogacy agencies.

“We got together and said, ‘We have to do something,’ ” said attorney Gregory Stern, legal director of Surrogacy Specialists of America, a Houston-based surrogacy agency. “This really does have to stop.”

Lisa Ikemoto, a professor at the University of California, Davis School of Law who specializes in bioethics, health and reproductive law, said she favors regulation of the industry but is concerned lawmakers could take it too far.

“We should focus on concerns about health and safety and preventing exploitation and protecting the needs and interest of the children and the parties involved,” she said. “My concern is that it will switch and become about social morality.”

A limited statute

No two states handle surrogacy the same.

In New York, surrogacy is illegal. Most states don’t address it at all.

Attorneys said Texas is actually one of the more progressive states because it has a statute governing surrogacy. But the law, they said, is very limited, applying only to married couples using gestational surrogacy — meaning the couple uses in vitro fertilization to create an embryo, which is then transferred to a surrogate woman who agrees to carry the couple’s baby.

In these cases, the contract between the parties is approved by a judge who orders the hospital to put the couple’s name on the birth certificate when the baby is born.

Texas’ statute does not address traditional surrogacy, when a surrogate mother is artificially inseminated with the intended father’s sperm. It also does not address single parents or gay partners using surrogates.

When a baby is born under these circumstances, attorneys said, the party that is not genetically linked to the child usually has to adopt the baby, as if they were a step-parent.

“It is not protected by the law, so there is a major legal risk,” said Dallas attorney Lauren Gaydos Duffer, who specializes in assisted reproductive technology law.

And while Texas outlines the responsibilities of the surrogate and married parents, it says nothing about the operation of surrogate agencies or what criteria should be used to select surrogate mothers and egg donors.

Vorzimer said states should require surrogacy agencies to be licensed, similar to adoption agencies.

He said background checks should be conducted on agency owners and operators, and guidelines should be established for the operation of escrow accounts.

“There also needs to be a state agency to provide oversight and to serve as a repository for perspective parents to contact, akin to the Better Business Bureau,” Vorzimer said. “There is no standardization or uniformity from agency to agency.”

Vorzimer also says states should regulate surrogates and egg donors, requiring them to undergo criminal background checks, drug screens, medical tests and psychological evaluations. They should also be required to have their own independent attorney and medical insurance, he said.

“I do not think any woman on any form of public assistance should be accepted as a surrogate or egg donor,” Vorzimer said. “A woman who has never gone through the process of childbirth also should not be a surrogate.”

Lots on the line

After she gave birth to her surrogate child, Scott said she made it her mission to educate surrogates, prospective parents and egg donors about the process. Scott, who is married with three children, is now co-owner of a Dallas-based surrogate agency, Simple Surrogacy. She is also a vocal proponent for industry regulation.

“There is nobody that stands over us and watches our every move, and there honestly should be,” she said. “If you think about it, the ones on the up and up would be happy to do it. I would love to tell someone, ‘I’m accredited. I’m licensed.’ ”

Scott said her agency conducts criminal background checks and psychological evaluations on all prospective egg donors and surrogates.

They also drug-test the women and draw up contracts allowing intended parents to test their surrogates whenever they want.

“We want to make sure they are responsible and are not going to wind up in jail or hurt the unborn child,” Scott said.

Scott said her agency receives about 50 applications a week from potential surrogates, who can make up to $30,000 for carrying another person’s child.

Scott said only about 10 make it through their initial screening process.

“A couple of years ago, I got a profile for a surrogate in North Carolina, and there was a list of things she had done, from drug possession and on and on,” Scott said. “I turned her down, and I found out that another agency was advertising her. I ended up calling them and saying, ‘Did you do a criminal background check?’ They told me to mind my own business.”

Frisco residents Linda and Danny Smith turned to Scott’s agency last year after several failed attempts at pregnancy. “I waited too long, and we went through several years of fertility treatments and drugs and it never worked,” said Linda Smith, 46.

Smith said they selected their surrogate — as well as an egg donor — after reviewing profiles, pictures, medical history and other information provided by Scott and her agency.

Using in vitro fertilization, Smith said her husband’s sperm fertilized eggs from the egg donor, who wished to remain anonymous. An embryo was then implanted into their surrogate, a woman Smith has gotten to know well.

Smith said she talks to her surrogate often and goes with her to doctor’s appointments. She will be with her in the delivery room. And while things are going well with Smith and her surrogate, Smith said she definitely supports regulation of the industry, where hearts and money are on the line.

“It is a big deal,” said Smith, who estimates they will spend $70,000 to $80,000. “It is very expensive, not only financially but emotionally.

“This is a life we are talking about.”

Gay edits to White House web site

Washington Blade, May 1, 2009

The official White House web site was recently updated and the much-lauded section on civil rights and LGBT rights severely edited.

A White House spokesperson told the Blade today that the site edits do not reflect any policy changes.

As with most web sites, periodic changes are made to whitehouse.gov, and recently we overhauled the issues section to concisely reflect the president’s broad agenda and we’ll continue to update those pages, but the president’s commitment to LGBT issues hasn¹t changed at all,” the spokesperson said. “So … anyone who’s saying that it’s a change in position is wrong.”

That’s reassuring and I’m all for brevity. But one change to the site has me concerned. The language related to repealing “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” represents a departure from the earlier iteration of the site.

The previous version of the language read, “Repeal Don’t Ask-Don’t Tell: President Obama agrees with former Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff John Shalikashvili and other military experts that we need to repeal the ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ policy. The key test for military service should be patriotism, a sense of duty, and a willingness to serve. Discrimination should be prohibited. The U.S. government has spent millions of dollars replacing troops kicked out of the military because of their sexual orientation. Additionally, more than 300 language experts have been fired under this policy, including more than 50 who are fluent in Arabic. The President will work with military leaders to repeal the current policy and ensure it helps accomplish our national defense goals.”

The site now states: “He supports changing Don’t Ask Don’t Tell in a sensible way that strengthens our armed forces and our national security.”

“Changing” the policy and “repealing” it are not necessarily the same thing. I hope this is just semantics and doesn’t represent a new reluctance to fulfill the promise of a full repeal.

The full text related to LGBT issues now reads: “President Obama also continues to support the Employment Non-Discrimination Act and believes that our anti-discrimination employment laws should be expanded to include sexual orientation and gender identity. He supports full civil unions and federal rights for LGBT couples and opposes a constitutional ban on same-sex marriage. He supports changing Don’t Ask Don’t Tell in a sensible way that strengthens our armed forces and our national security, and also believes that we must ensure adoption rights for all couples and individuals, regardless of their sexual orientation.”

Just one minute after taking office in January, the White House site was updated and Obama’s LGBT promises were spelled out in greater detail.

On civil unions, the site read: “Support Full Civil Unions and Federal Rights for LGBT Couples: President Obama supports full civil unions that give same-sex couples legal rights and privileges equal to those of married couples. Obama also believes we need to repeal the Defense of Marriage Act and enact legislation that would ensure that the 1,100+ federal legal rights and benefits currently provided on the basis of marital status are extended to same-sex couples in civil unions and other legally-recognized unions. These rights and benefits include the right to assist a loved one in times of emergency, the right to equal health insurance and other employment benefits, and property rights.”

On marriage: “Oppose a Constitutional Ban on Same-Sex Marriage: President Obama voted against the Federal Marriage Amendment in 2006 which would have defined marriage as between a man and a woman and prevented judicial extension of marriage-like rights to same-sex or other unmarried couples. “

On adoption: “Expand Adoption Rights: President Obama believes that we must ensure adoption rights for all couples and individuals, regardless of their sexual orientation. He thinks that a child will benefit from a healthy and loving home, whether the parents are gay or not.”

There was also language reflecting support for hate crimes legislation and for ENDA.

Did You Support Gay Adoption Ban? Congrats: You’ve Been Outed!

Queerty.com
April 29, 2009

Thought the public disclosure requirements for Prop 8 donors was an invasion of privacy? Sorry, shamed conservatives, but you’re facing another supposed violation! Arkansans who last year signed petitions to put a gay adoption ban on the state ballot are seeing their names posted on the Internet. All 83,000 of them.

On KnowThyNeighbor.org — which has previously posted names from similar anti-gay efforts in Florida, Massachusetts, and Oregon — anyone can find the names of petition signers who helped get the “no unmarried singles” law passed. While it also affects single heteros, the ban was undoubtedly aimed at gay moms and dads.

Naturally, conservatives are pissed their identities are being made public. “This is pure intimidation,” says the Family Council’s director Jerry Cox. “Everyone who looks at this Web site can see this is an effort on the part of radical gay organizations to intimidate citizens into not exercising their rights.”

Only problem? Their identities were already public. Signing a petition to support a ballot measure means your name becomes part of the public record. And that’s how it should be. Any citizen who wants to influence public policy should be known to her constituents. It’s that very transparency that lends some legitimacy to this thing we call democracy.

But the Family Council is threatening to litigate the matter. And they may have some standing.

[…] legislation passed during this year’s legislative session limiting information that can be made public about concealed-carry permit holders.

Act 1291 of 2009 keeps the names and zip codes of concealed carry permit holders public but exempts other information from the Arkansas Freedom of Information Act. The original legislation would have shielded all information about permit holders from the FOI law.

“If the Legislature can protect the identities of concealed carry permit holders, the Legislature should be able to protect people who sign petitions,” Cox said.

In the meantime, get to know your hateful Arkansas neighbors.

FAMILY: Bonding, Not Breaking

Gay City News
By: ANTHONY M. BROWN
04/30/2009

What is it about families? Wars have been fought over them. History has been made because of them. Comedians and therapists have made millions talking about them. But when it all boils down, family makes us who we are, whether standing with them or running from them. And families will bond or break in times of crisis.

My husband Gary’s Aunt Elda is dying. We got her cancer diagnosis a few months ago, but only recently did it hit home that there will be no successful treatment for her ovarian/GI cancer. She had lived outside Gary’s family for many years, in large part due to Chuck, her husband. Chuck was perhaps the most prejudiced, bigoted, intolerant man I had ever met. His willingness to make racist or homophobic statements in Gary’s presence was almost as strong as his love for Elda. dscn2820

In an ironic twist of fate, Chuck’s mentor, a well-respected and successful businessman named Ralph Thomas, was also my father’s best friend. Chuck would cringe when I would talk about Ralph and his wife in very personal terms, as I saw them often before my father died. On Chuck’s deathbed, everything changed.

Chuck had suffered a series of strokes, the last one leaving him unable to communicate. Gary and I were visiting him in the hospital when I noticed that he was agitated. I knew from my father’s deathbed experience how to shift a person up in the bed by lifting the bed pad placed under the patient and on top of the bed linens. I asked Chuck if he wanted to move up. He blinked his eyes rapidly. Gary and I lifted the pad, and Chuck, successfully up in the bed. As our eyes met, I could swear I saw him crying and with that, a world of misunderstanding and homophobia flew right out the hospital window.

Gary’s father is also enduring a prolonged battle with Parkinson’s disease, which has left him mentally aware, yet also unable to communicate or walk. If he could, he would probably yell. Italians yell, that’s just the way it is. It took me, a Southern WASP with his own built-in issues, years of therapy to realize that Gary’s screaming had more to do with his heritage than anything I may have done. He learned that from his parents.

Even with the Parkinson’s, Gary’s parents yell at each other. It used to bother me, but now either I understand it or I am just used to it. While home over the weekend, we watched the ultimate tearjerker movie, “The Notebook,” based on the novel by Nicholas Sparks. It tells the tale of a man who reads a handwritten story to a woman in a nursing home everyday until she realizes, through her dementia, that it is their love story. For a few minutes, she remembers, then he is a stranger again.

At the conclusion of the movie, Gary’s mom was sitting in Gary’s lap, both crying, and I was holding my father-in-law’s hand, also crying. Tears everywhere. We all hugged each other and, in a moment that I will remember for the rest of my life, Gary’s dad looked into the eyes of his wife of over 60 years and said with unusual clarity, “I didn’t know that this was what you’ve been dealing with. I am sorry.” We all lost it. Gary’s mom replied that she loved him and that she wanted to take care of him. More tears. Gary and I hugged while this exchange occurred, knowing that a gift had just been given to everyone in that room.

Enter Michael, Gary’s older brother, who had been watching this whole emotional experience transpire with his girlfriend Xiao from the other room. Xiao is Chinese and had never met a gay person, much less a gay couple, before dating Michael. They have only been dating for a few months, but things look serious. Michael told me that Xiao had also seen the hug-fest and asked, “How long have Tony and Gary been together?” Michael replied, “Almost 20 years.” Xiao said, “Do you think we will be like that in 20 years?” Michael said, “I hope so.”

Gary and I have become the intimacy role models for the Spino clan of Greensburg, Pennsylvania. Gary’s cousin and life-long friend sought our advice when her marriage was failing. While almost everyone of my in-laws is a devout Catholic, some going to church everyday, Gary and I are still a solid and happy couple in their eyes.

Regardless what people think about their in-laws, there are lessons to be learned from them, joys and sorrows to be experienced because of them. These are the things that only a family can provide and while many on the socially conservative side of the aisle would discount my family, no one can change the fact that I am married to a man with a family that loves and respects both me and my husband. What more could I ask for?

Anthony M. Brown currently heads the Nontraditional Family and Estates Law division of the law firm of McKenna, Siracusano & Chianese and is the executive director of The Wedding Party. He can be reached at Brown@msclaw.net.

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