Risks of Using a Known Sperm Donor

Seattle University Law School professor Julie Shapiro had a interesting post this past weekend on why lesbians should think twice before using a known sperm donor.

Professor Shapiro points out what’s unique about a California where a lesbian couple split up five months after one woman gave birth to twins. Now they fight for custody.

Smith [the non-birth mother] is not simply opposed by Quale [her former partner, the birth-mother] but also by Wallace [the sperm donor], and Wallace is not simply a party in the case, he is present as Quale’s new partner. Quale and Wallace can present themselves as a heterosexual couple, both of whom are related to the child–a traditional, man/woman, genetically constructed family.

It’s not hard to imagine that a court might seize an opportunity to ensure the twins are raised in an ordinary heterosexual, genetically constructed household. 

I agree. While Smith, the non-birth mother, might have a legitimate claim to keeping parental rights, I doubt the court will do anything other than award full parental rights to the birth mom and dad. Especially since the the lesbian couple split up just five months after the twins were born.