New York State Marriage Equality

News Flash……….From Human Rights Campaign

New York State is now one step closer to marriage equality. Last night, the New York State Assembly passed the marriage equality bill (A.7732) with a vote of 89 to 52.
Thanks go to Governor Paterson and Assemblyman Daniel O’Donnell for their leadership.

Marriage equality now moves to the New York Senate, where the vote is expected to be exceptionally close. Take action today to let your state senator know that you want him or her to pass the marriage equality bill (S.4401).

Marriage equality on the move in New York will be a rallying cry for opponents of equality, too. The right wing National Organization for Marriage is planning a rally outside the Governor’s office this Sunday to protest his support for equal civil marriage rights to protect all New York families.

We know that support for equality runs deep in New York, so if you can be in New York City this Sunday, May 17th, join us for Action=Equality from 5-7 p.m. at 6th Ave. and 45th St. Help celebrate the passage of marriage equality in the Assembly and find out what you can do to help pass this bill in the Senate. Join HRC, Broadway Impact, Cynthia Nixon, Kristin Davis, the cast of Hair, Audra McDonald, Cheyenne Jackson, Gavin Creel, and of course, our friends Assemblyman Daniel O’Donnell and Senator Tom Duane for Action=Equality.

Sperm Donor Banks

Today I wanted to write about credible Sperm Banks. You can research and find a plethora of choices, its actually quite overwhelming to see how many places to get donor sperm from.

My suggestion is to use these two:

Fairfax

California Cryobank

Please definitely do your homework and look into your choices. We felt comfortable with these two. We actually ended up using Fairfax and are very happy with their services and product. You will also find that most nurses recommend Fairfax Cryobank and California Cryobank because of their distinction and credibility.  Their acceptance and testing criteria are very prudent.

Once you decide which one to pick from , you enter another world, the Sperm Donor Matrix. You will know the donor better then you know your partner.

This step will take the most time because picking your donor is hard work. However, there are alot of tools they offer to make is easier like some have baby pictures, some have lifetime pictures, voice recordings, and medical history. A good thing to check is if there are any reported pregnancies. Also the type of washes you can use with your procedure: The three washes are  IVF, ICI or IUI . For our cycle we were able to use IVF and ICI, this helps because sometimes they might have it in one wash but not the other.

My advice is do not rush into it but if you really like a donor check right away how many vials they have available. The Doctors suggest at least 2 vials for each cycle to be sent so make sure you buy enough for back up as not everyone is lucky on the first try.

We bought our donor out because the first time he was on a waiting list and there was a waiting list for that list.

Once the bank sends the doctor the vials they can not be returned so you either must discard or have your doctor store them for you (if they offer this service- its called cryopreservation) Otherwise once you buy the sperm you will have to pay the back for storage. This runs about $375 a year. If you become pregnant and are done with your family, all donor sperm not touched from bank can be returned for half the price.

Please feel free to ask me any questions if I missed anything on this part.

Where to Start :Part 1(Amy and Maria’s Blog)

So for awhile Maria and I were stuck and didn’t know what our first move should be. Okay we are ready for a family, great! Now what?

I can tell you what we did. I guess for us the most important thing was getting our finances together. An IVF cycle is expensive not including the medications, doctor fees, attorney fees, and everything else that this process comes with. Since its a lot to tell I would like to divide in a few parts.

Checklist

Where to start

IVF Doctors

IVF Fees

Donor Sperm (in our case) Unknown Donor

Cryopreservation /Sperm Storage

Type of Procedure

NY State Law

Adoption

There is more to come……

Amy

La Moves To Bar Same-Sex Couples From Having Names On Birth Certificates

By 365gay Newscenter Staff
05.06.2009 3:20pm EDT

(Baton Rouge, Louisiana) The Louisiana legislature is moving forward with legislation that would bar the state from issuing birth certificates showing two people of the same sex as parents.

The House Health and Welfare Committee has voted 12-3 to send the bill to the full House for a vote. Gov. Bobby Jindal (R) supports the bill.

The measure grew out of a federal lawsuit brought by a gay couple who want their names on the birth certificate of their adopted son.

Oren Adar and Mickey Smith adopted their Louisiana-born son in 2006 in a New York court, where a judge issued an adoption decree.

When Smith attempted to get a new birth certificate for their child so he could add his son to his health insurance, the office of Louisiana State Registrar Darlene Smith told him that Louisiana does not recognize adoption by unmarried parents and so could not issue it.

Lambda Legal filed suit on behalf of Adar and Smith in October 2007, saying that the registrar was violating the Full Faith and Credit Clause of the U.S. Constitution by refusing to recognize the New York adoption. The Constitution holds that judgments and orders issued by a court in one state are legally binding in other states as well.

In December, U.S. District Judge Jay Zainey in New Orleans ordered the state Office of Vital Records to put the names of both fathers on the amended birth certificate.

In his ruling, Zainey said failing to amend the birth certificate violated the U.S. Constitution. Zainey issued the ruling without holding a trial.

In April, the 5th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals put a stay on the ruling to allow the state to appeal.

The 5th Circuit ordered legal briefs to be submitted in the case and the Appeals Court is expected to hear the case later this year.

Attorney General Buddy Caldwell said that the case brings up complex constitutional questions and is likely to end up before the U.S. Supreme Court.

The Supreme Court has ruled previously that there “are some limitations upon the extent to which a state may be required by the full faith and credit clause to enforce even the judgment of another state in contravention of its own statutes or policy.”

Welcome to Our Blog

Hi Everyone , 

My name is Amy and my partner is Maria. We would like to Welcome you to our blog. We have alot of great stories to share with you. We hope that you will ask lots of questions. 

Amy and Maria

Maine committee endorses gay marriage bill

(Augusta, Maine) The state Senate Judiciary Committee voted 14-11 Tuesday to bring the equal marriage bill before the full Senate.

Moments before the vote was taken, a woman was removed from the room by State Police after shouting that the bill was immoral. Meanwhile, same-sex marriage advocates delivered more than 10,000 postcards to Gov. John Baldacci asking him to support the legislation. Baldacci has said he has not made up his mind on gay marriage.

EqualityMaine and the Center for the Prevention of Hate Violence called on the governor to endorse the bill and sign it if it passes the legislature. The groups also sent lawmakers copy of a book they prepared that includes interviews with 82 people who tell about the impact on their families of not having a gay marriage law.

The legislation would repeal Maine’s 12-year-old Defense of Marriage law which bars same-sex marriage. It also states that churches cannot be compelled to conduct same-sex weddings if they would be contrary to their doctrine.

Maine’s tourism industry has said legalizing same-sex marriage in the state could save them from disaster as the state’s economy continues to turn sour.

Industry spokespeople pointed to a recent study by the Williams Institute, a think tank at the University of California –  Los Angeles that found extending marriage to same-sex couples would boost Maine’s economy by $60 million over three years, which would generate increases in state and local government tax and fee revenues by almost $3.6 million.

The conservative Maine Marriage Alliance has said that if same-sex marriage appears to be on a track to legalization, it would press for a constitutional amendment to ban same-sex marriage.

A vote in the Senate could come as early as next week.

In New Hampshire, a vote on a similar bill is set for an initial vote Wednesday in the state Senate.

Same-sex marriage already is legal in three other New England states – Massachusetts, Connecticut and Vermont.

Gay dad, kids receive Social Security benefits


(Washington) The Social Security Administration has reversed a decision to deny benefits to the children of a disabled gay father following a three year battle waged on behalf of the family by Lambda Legal.

“This is long awaited relief for Gary Day and his children, who just want to be respected as the family that they are,” said Lambda attorney Beth Littrell in a statement.

“The Social Security Administration is supposed to provide families with help in a time of need regardless of a parent’s sexual orientation. After three long years and a federal lawsuit, the SSA has finally come through for these children.”

In February 2006, Day completed the applications for Child Insurance Benefits for his children. He provided birth certificates and court documents that acknowledge him as a legal parent of the children. The SSA acknowledged that they received the application and promised to provide a response in 45 days.

After more than a year with no response, Lambda Legal sent a letter on Day’s behalf seeking action by the agency. The SSA still did not provide an initial determination of eligibility citing unspecified “legal questions and policy issues” involved with the application.

Day provided all the necessary documentation to establish a legitimate parent-child relationship and fulfilled all of the SSA’s prerequisites, according to Lambda, yet his family was left without the social safety net that Day had paid into for decades and that all other families are provided on a regular basis.

In May 2008, Lambda Legal, along with co-counsel from McDermott Will & Emery, filed suit against the SSA compelling the agency to act on Day’s application and urging the SSA to recognize Day as a legal parent of the children.

The agency Friday finally sent a letter to Lambda recognizing the legal relationship between Day and his children without discrimination based on his sexual orientation or family status.

“As a parent, it is my job to provide for my children,” said Day.

” I am relieved to be able to fulfill my promise and also relieved that the SSA will provide the benefits my family needs, just as they do for other families.”

“This case has always been about the welfare of Mr. Day’s children and protecting them from discrimination … The sexual orientation of their parents is and should be irrelevant to such a determination,” said co-counsel Lisa A. Linsky.

Florida Supreme Court takes up gay adoption advocacy case

(Tallahassee, Florida) The Florida Supreme Court on Wednesday heard oral arguments as to whether a committee of the Florida Bar Association can present arguments challenging the state’s ban on gays adopting children.

Florida law allows gays to serve as foster parents but not adopt. The law is considered the most repressive of its kind in the country.  But a Miami judge ruled in November that there is “no rational basis” for prohibiting gays from adopting children.

The Florida Department of Children & Families and the state attorney general’s office , backed by Gov. Charlie Crist (R), appealed the gay-friendly ruling to the Third District Court of Appeal in Miami.

In January, the Florida Bar’s Board of Governors voted to allow its Family Law Section to file “a friend of the court” brief in support of the gay-friendly lower court ruling. But a conservative group of attorneys challenged the right of the board to intervene in the case. The lawyers are represented by Liberty Counsel, which regularly fights LGBT issues across the country.

The Bar Association, on the other hand, argues that the board should be allowed to present its arguments, saying that the board is a voluntary section of the Bar and does not necessarily represent the full membership of the Association.

The  issue of whether the ban on gay adoptions is constitutional will likely ultimately end up before the Supreme Court as well.

Until then, the lower court ruling permitting gay adoption will apply only to the case that was before it at the time, which  involved Martin Gill of Miami who sought to adopt two young brothers he had cared for as foster children since 2004.

The boys had been placed with Gill temporarily after he was approached for help by a state child abuse investigator. When the three became attached, so Gill sought to adopt the boys.

In November, Gill and lawyers from the American Civil Liberties Union in October asked Miami-Dade Circuit Judge Cindy Lederman to overturn the ban on gay adoption and award him permanent custody.

An attorney appointed by Lederman to represent the children said in a report to the court that the children refer to Gill and his partner as “dad” and that Gill should be granted the adoption.

The Florida Department of Children & Families and the state attorney general’s office argued the ban should be maintained. The position had the support of Gov. Charlie Crist (R) who said he has no plans to have the law repealed.

The Florida legislature adopted the law banning gay adoption during Anita Bryant’s infamous anti-gay crusade in 1977. The bill’s sponsor in the state Senate told a local newspaper at the time that the law was intended to send this message to lesbians and gay men: “[We] are really tired of you. We wish you’d go back in the closet.”

In 2004, a federal appeals court upheld Florida’s ban on gay adoption. In a written ruling, the court rejected a challenge by four gay men to the law.

“We exercise great caution when asked to take sides in an ongoing public policy debate, such as the current one over the compatibility of homosexual conduct with the duties of adoptive parenthood,” wrote Judge Stanley Birch.

“The state of Florida has made the determination that it is not in the best interests of its displaced children to be adopted by individuals who ‘engage in current, voluntary homosexual activity’ and we have found nothing in the Constitution that forbids this policy judgment.”

The following year, the U.S. Supreme Court declined to hear an appeal. Attempts to repeal the law have failed several times in the Florida legislature.